I had dinner with my friend Keri last night. We used to work together, but she moved on to another company about a year ago.
Keri and her husband have been fighting many battles.
First, the in-laws. His parents are two of the most hideous people I have ever heard of in my life. Too much booze, too many opinions.
Second, her husband has diabetes, and they both are severely overweight and struggle constantly to try and lose it.
Third, they have been trying for years to get pregnant. They went to one doctor who ordered all of these tests that all came back inconclusive. They went to another doctor who said those tests couldn't be inconclusive, and they needed to be done over again. Not being able to afford that, they've gone for more opinions and had another doctor tell them there is no reason why they can't get pregnant. As it stands today, their current doctor, who they like very much, has said that their options are invitro-fertilization, or a sperm donor. Invitro costs roughly $18,000.00, and her husband can't quite decide how he feels about using a sperm donor, which would cost roughly $600.00.
In the meantime, Keri has decided with her doctor to have gastric bypass surgery. I have mixed feelings about this surgery, because it so drastic. I think though that it is a smart move for Keri's situation. She needs to lose another 15 pounds before the surgery in October.
Before we had dinner together, I was almost thinking she was going to tell me she was pregnant. A couple of funnily-worded e-mails, and then an announcement during dinner that she had stopped drinking caffeine really got my hopes up. It has been such a roller coaster for her, and I can't even come close to relating.
So, I will think happy thoughts for her and hope that her surgery will be the doorway through which good things will come.
Keri and her husband have been fighting many battles.
First, the in-laws. His parents are two of the most hideous people I have ever heard of in my life. Too much booze, too many opinions.
Second, her husband has diabetes, and they both are severely overweight and struggle constantly to try and lose it.
Third, they have been trying for years to get pregnant. They went to one doctor who ordered all of these tests that all came back inconclusive. They went to another doctor who said those tests couldn't be inconclusive, and they needed to be done over again. Not being able to afford that, they've gone for more opinions and had another doctor tell them there is no reason why they can't get pregnant. As it stands today, their current doctor, who they like very much, has said that their options are invitro-fertilization, or a sperm donor. Invitro costs roughly $18,000.00, and her husband can't quite decide how he feels about using a sperm donor, which would cost roughly $600.00.
In the meantime, Keri has decided with her doctor to have gastric bypass surgery. I have mixed feelings about this surgery, because it so drastic. I think though that it is a smart move for Keri's situation. She needs to lose another 15 pounds before the surgery in October.
Before we had dinner together, I was almost thinking she was going to tell me she was pregnant. A couple of funnily-worded e-mails, and then an announcement during dinner that she had stopped drinking caffeine really got my hopes up. It has been such a roller coaster for her, and I can't even come close to relating.
So, I will think happy thoughts for her and hope that her surgery will be the doorway through which good things will come.
posted by Robyn at
4:59 PM
2 Comments:
Yeah...gotta say neither of the options are very appealing, are they?
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Crafty Japan, at 1:20 AM
Goodness, Gastric Bypass? That is getting a bit serious. All the best for her with that, though diet and exercise and religiously sticking to both is usually a good way to start.
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Squishi, at 5:45 AM
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